i don’t care about the rebuttals. i also didn’t read most of the original callout post. because of this, i tried to write it off as “drama i didn’t want to get involved with” until recently. but then i saw this post that cleared a lot of things up for me. the final nail in the coffin, though, was when i took a closer look at the things they said recently. in their incredibly long comic about them allegedly NOT being an abuser, pk proved that they are, in fact, abusive. they displayed classic abuse tactics i’ve seen a million times such as
and, my personal favorite, saying they almost committed suicide to get people to stop criticizing them:
that should be a HUGE RED FLAG, but if that isn’t enough for you, the biggest red flag of all is this:
like, oh, how convenient! pk was only accused of EMOTIONAL abuse, so that means that, according to pk’s rules, telling everyone about it was inherently evil regardless of whether or not the callout was true!! everybody who’s a victim of emotional abuse should just work things out privately!!!! they’re also using this to shift the responsibility onto their ex (another abuse tactic) for not trying harder to “resolve things.” because abusers are SO easy to reason with
these are all the typical examples of abuser behaviors. there’s nothing new about the way they act, the only difference is that they’re a popular artist
so to summarize this post
you freely admit you don’t care what either the accused or the victim have to say for themselves, but you’re gonna form and broadcast your baseless opinion anyway
you criticize someone’s depiction of a post that you just said you didn’t read, based entirely on the assumption that the post depicts abuse, which you can’t know if you didn’t read it
you think it’s gaslighting when someone has hard evidence that their version of events is correct — meanwhile you and many others are telling pk over and over that she is abusive when she is not but that’s totally different, for some reason
you think it’s somehow unreasonable for someone to feel suicidal when their friends and thousands of strangers turn on them over false accusations, and call it a huge red flag that someone would admit to contemplating suicide
and you think she is shifting responsibility onto pengo for trying hard to resolve things, even though they had a very long conversation at the end of their relationship during which things seemingly were resolved, and then pengo apparently blocked her forever, which you would know if you had read the rebuttal and weren’t talking entirely out your ass
you are trivializing suicide, helping repeat a lie, pushing all the blame onto one person and basing your harsh opinion of them on shit you completely made up
wow, this sounds familiar. it actually fits your own definition of “typical examples of abuser behaviors”! i suppose you’ll now ignore me or handwave me away, because as you know, abusers are really difficult to reason with.
i am rapidly losing interest in the moral judgments of this particular subsection of tumblr
if being a good person is spreading gossip and actively refusing to read evidence that proves it false
if being a good person is haranguing and intimidating people who don’t join your angry mob
if being a good person is outright inventing lies when you run out of truth, as long as it serves your goal of demonizing someone you just plain don’t like
if being a good person is confidently proclaiming someone is trash but whining and hiding at the slightest questioning
then i want no part of it and i don’t really give a damn what you think of me, mel, or anyone
i will just be myself, and do my best at it
y'all can go be “good” people over there by yourselves
that the internet justice hate mob is now stooping to sending nasty asks to people who express support for purplekecleon
in at least a couple cases this has successfully intimidated people into deleting their posts, or not making them in the first place
I REMIND YOU that two of pengo’s accusations were friend policing and silencing tactics, which wow sure sound a whole lot like exactly the thing you’re doing now? ?????
y'all are hypocrites and bullies of the worst kind
and of course you don’t send any of this crap to me, because you know you don’t have a leg to stand on and i will grind your pissy ask into dust. so you go harass everyone else. class fuckin act.
but actually, it’s about ethics in dating
(1/2) I have developed PTSD from abuse. Along with having nearly every anxiety disorder, I'm also excessively paranoid. Before PTSD, my memory was pretty good. Now, it's just plain scary at how much I misremember things, don't remember at all, or plain have false memories. Logs have been absolutely vital to me. Without them, my life would be a garbled mess..
(2/3) When I read about your situation, while I
clearly felt bad for PK, I also felt rather bad for Pend. I honestly
believe he is sure the events he recalled is correct, which is why it’s
so troublesome he didn’t have access to logs. It honestly was something
that could’ve been easily fixed if he actually expressed himself. I
suppose from previous abuse it was something he was fearful of
(especially things like “What if I say this is too much work?”), which
is something I completely
(3/3) understand, but it makes it difficult for relationships.
the human memory is actually pretty damn terrible to start with. it’s murky in the first place, and then we naturally fill in gaps when we recall anything, which makes it extremely easy to tilt one way or another based on how you feel now. my memory of events in my life is atrociously bad and i hate it.
i don’t know
they were highly incompatible, it was a tragedy all around
which would be fine except now he is claiming his regrets as manipulation on her part
i don’t know, a great deal of his post isn’t even explaining why she’s manipulative or abusive, it’s about weird petty stuff like why he was totally right about rearranging the buttons on her table
i felt bad for him at the time, i felt bad for him when the callout came out, but i’m having a real hard time now, after watching this escalate yet again, and knowing that this is what he wanted (because he said as much in the post). i may not be good enough a person to stretch my sympathy this far
turning into a straight up harassment campaign, over a bad breakup that happened in one weekend, based on a post that explicitly doesn’t call her abusive, which i guess nobody actually read
thanks tumblr
That comic you made defends racism, homophobia, transphobia, islamophobia and anything else to that degree. Why did you make it? I am confused.
No, it doesn’t. Those things are despicable things. But someone saying, doing things that are racist, homophobic, transphobic, islamophobic, etc does not make someone permanently a racist, homophobe, etc.
The entire comic is about people who say or do an awful thing - and then feel stupid and bad about it when they realize what they’ve done or said. Those people often go on to correct others in the future - because they want to see others learn what they did!
It is not a comic about someone who partakes in ongoing homophobia, transphobia, and so on, at all. People who participate in that, who do racist things, homophobic things, whatever, they need to stop. Sometimes they will, and they end up trying to make up for all of the time they spent being ignorant and hateful. Sometimes they don’t. Avoiding people who don’t stop showing those behaviors is absolutely good.
What’s not good, though, is sectioning off anyone who fucks up on something they genuinely didn’t mean to fuck up on – people need to be let to apologize and grow as individuals, and holding onto things that they apologized and made up for in the past is no good. That’s what the comic is about.
I’m really sorry that the message wasn’t clear enough. I thought I made it clear enough, but I can see I need to work on my message presentation some.
does anyone else remember a few years back when some people swapped around SSBB character animations for a bit of fun and accidentally unleashed horrific monstrosities from the deepest pits of hell
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